Start a conversation with a random couple – Learning, Openness, Fearlessness
How do you behave when you meet a stranger? How do you feel? Are you comfortable? Since we were small children we were taught to stay away from strangers – or with the words from the movie The Croods: “Never not be afraid!”. Have you ever asked yourself why the society is teaching us to be afraid of people we do not know? Well, we have and what we’ve done tonight is something you can do to break the chains of the teachings mentioned above. Being afraid of people or what people will say and think is what separates us. Out of fear they “wear masks” because they want to blend in and please someone who actually doesn’t exist because the majority is wearing masks as well when they are outside their homes. This is one of the reasons why people cannot get along very well in their lives, businesses and relationships. But don’t worry, everything we’ve been taught to believe, can be unlearned and unmemorized and then you can start living your life freely and start making your own decisions 😉
Tonight I and Even went for a nice Japanese dinner. We ordered drinks and food, as normal people do. The restaurant was half-full and across from our table there was a nice couple our age, speaking English with a British accent. Out of nowhere Even came up with a very unusual idea… and no, we haven’t had any drinks yet, so… She said: “What if we would walk across the room and sat down beside the couple and start a conversation. Of course we would lead and direct the conversation depending of how they will react… (laughter)… This would be definitely something we haven’t done before and we can use it for our Game of Life.” Of course I replied: “Yeah, what the heck… The worst thing they can say is “Sorry, we’d like our privacy”, but I knew that will not be the case.
After we finished our main course and after we saw them finishing as well, we stood up and joined the couple. We sat down, introduced ourselves and told them that we’ve never done something like this before. I told them that we just wanted to see how people that don’t know us, would react when we join them at the table. They surely were surprised, but at the same time very delighted. They said they’ve never seen anyone doing something like this, except when singles are looking for other singles, and that it actually feels good and refreshing. So we started a conversation asking them where they were from, why they were here etc…
After a couple of minutes we decided that we will finish the desert and a couple of drinks together. All of us actually got along very well, we had a lot of things to talk about, especially because all of us have been traveling a lot, so there was a lot to share. The atmosphere was very pleasant and our feelings went from excited, through unknown, to delighted.
This experience is a proof that all people feel good when approached by someone they don’t know, with the right intent of course. Within all of us there is a desire to explore, discover and learn new things. The unknown is always something people are afraid of, because they’ve been taught that knowing what comes next is essential. But this is what takes us out of the present moment, which in reality is all there is.
Stay positive, full of joy and live your life without boundaries!
With light and joy,