Pay a compliment to a stranger – Friendliness, Connection
Believe it or not but since we’ve created the intention to do as many dares as we can come up with, they somehow began to pop up. This morning when we woke up it was a cloudless sunny Monday, so we decided that we’ll go for a walk into the nature and stop somewhere for a coffee. While walking, we spent most of the time talking about the dares we’ve already done and how much fun we’ve had.
After walking for an hour we stopped for a coffee and enjoyed the sun. While having a coffee I noticed a middle aged couple approaching the bar. They sat down very close to our table. During the talk I’ve had with my husband I somehow noticed that one of my ears was picking up the other couple’s conversation, which is something, I usually never do. I could hear them talking about cakes and that her favorite flavor is blueberry cake and so on. So all of the sudden I looked at her and I though… oh… my favorite cake flavor is blueberry too and while looking at her I could notice that she was a very beautiful woman. 🙂 To be honest, I didn’t think I would be capable of doing something, I’m about to share with you.
After a while my husband paid for coffees and I decided to use the restroom before we go. When I was washing my hands, the woman who was sitting next to our table (speaking with her husband about cakes), came out of toilet and waited for me to wash my hands. After I finished and gave her space all of the sudden I looked at her and asked if I can pay her a compliment. She looked at me very nicely, smiled and said… “Of course”…But I could notice that deep inside her she knew what I was going to tell her. So I took my breath and I said: “I have to tell you, that you are a very beautiful woman.” Her face became red and all she could say was (with a smile):”Thank you very much”. But I could feel that from what I said to her she was glowing from the inside. I smiled back and left the restroom.
I had a big smile on my face while approaching El and my body was shaking a bit, because my mind just realized what I’ve done. 🙂 So El asked: “What did just happen, you look different, more excited?”. All I could say was that I just did a dare, but this time unplanned and out of nowhere. I told him to turn around, look at the woman and tell me if he can see any difference. His response was: “Don’t tell me you said anything to her… what was it, tell me quickly.”
After I explained everything and once again realized, that I did an unplanned dare for the first time and gave such a beautiful compliment to someone, I felt very, very good and could really feel her happiness and bliss and let me tell you that I felt different as well.
When it comes to situations like this, we all share the same, or at least similar thoughts and emotions. We all notice the properties of others around us, but most of us always keep the thoughts for ourselves. When someone receives a compliment from a person, he or she does not know, it has a different meaning. So, why don’t we say it out loud? Only because we fear, what the other person might say, or think of us. I’m pretty sure that from now on, I’ll connect and talk to people differently and especially more openly, without fear and judgment.
So if you think that the today’s dare is exciting enough for you and if you are courageous enough to do it, I dare you to try it and feel this incredible feelings of excitement and uncertainty. And please, after you’re done, share your experience with us!
Until next time, with light and joy.