Cook a meal with someone who never cooked before – Support, Guidance and Influence
We’ve only just began with our Game of Life and it already gives us an awesome feeling when guiding people around us. With the right intent and motivation anyone can do anything, but for that a person sometimes needs just a little nudge 😉
Last night we watched the movie “The Hundred-Foot Journey” – if you don’t know it, we warmly recommend it. Anyway, through the movie we got the inspiration to prepare a meal with someone who never cooked in his life. We love to cook and experiment with new dishes and we always love to add new spices into existing recipes. But we’ve never given a lesson to someone who never cooked in his life. The 1st and best person we could come up with, was El’s father. He’s never had a desire or need to cook. In his youth he lived with two women (mother and sister) and now he is happily married with El’s mother. She loves to cook, so for him, cooking in no necessity, although we might recall hearing him once or twice say that he would like to try someday…
To be honest, I think that everybody should know how to at least boil an egg. Don’t you agree? El’s father didn’t know anything about our idea, so we called him this morning and told him that we would like to invite him and El’s mother for lunch. But in the meantime we also gently mentioned that we would like to cook a meal with him being involved in the cooking process. Ha, ha, ha… what were we thinking? His response was very straight. “Yes, yes, we’d love to come for lunch but only if you cook“. So, we thought… damn… nice try… we thought that this time our Dare of the day would be canceled or postponed.
Quite a lot of times El’s mother mentioned that she would be delighted if her husband would prepare a meal at least once in his life. So I immediately remembered, that the best person who could convince him, is her. So I called her, explained what the game was all about and asked her to convince him to participate, gently of course 😉 I repeat, not force him, but persuade him in a polite way.
So, as you all already know, when a woman wants to get or achieve something, she’s capable of doing anything it takes to achieve her desires and we always know how to apply all our gentle tools.
During the day El’s mother eventually convinced her husband to do it and because of the cooking lesson, they finished work a bit earlier than normal. But to make it more fun, El’s mother decided, that she and El will go to buy some groceries she needed for home and in the meantime I’ll cook the lunch with my father-in-law, just to give him some space. Ha, ha, ha… one more challenge for me and El, because he never did shopping with his mom… at least not since he was a kid.
I decided to give my father-in-law an easy first cooking lesson, to show him that anybody can to it. On the kitchen counter, I prepared the potatoes and explained that the today’s main dish is crispy potato slices with sesame, baked in the oven and mixed salad (by the way this is one of his favorite dishes) as a side dish. So he took a knife and started peeling the potatoes as per my instructions. The next thing he had to do, was to cut each potato into slices… evenly.
It took him some time to finish with peeling and slicing and to be honest, peeling potatoes is not an easy job, especially for someone who’s never done it before. But it was funny and exciting watching him. After that he had to put the potato slices into a big bowl, wash them and then mix them with walnut oil, salt and sesame seeds. And so the potatoes were prepared for baking at 200°C for 45 minutes. In the meantime he also cut and prepared the ingredients for the mixed salad and after everything was almost ready, we opened a bottle of red wine, to make the first toast.
Just before lunch was fully prepared, El and his mother returned from shopping, eager to hear how everything went. El’s father was smiling and so was I and we were very happy to have spent very good time together. Lunch was served in a very delicate manner and after we tried the dishes, we all agreed that my father-in-law’s first cooking lesson was a success – everything tasted very very delicious!
When someone creates something on his own, or learns a new skill – cooking, drawing, building, you name it – he experiences emotions of a higher level. The excitement activates motivation, motivation activates self-confidence and that usually means that he wants to do more of it, especially when people around him are satisfied and pleased with his outcome. And that’s exactly what happened here 😉
We’re pretty sure that the next time he’ll prepare a meal on his own and surprise us all with invitation. Sometimes a person just needs a little inspiration and support to see that he is capable of doing much more than he allows himself to believe. 😉
If you’ve recently done anything out of ordinary or something that made you feel excited, please share it with all of us!
With light and joy,